Though finding absolute solution in relationship is full of risk and bewilderment, let us discuss a few basic understanding, that hopefully will allow one to make more sense.

1. The outer world is the reflection of the inner: The present behavior and personality traits of an individual are the reflection or expression of inner seed already implanted in the past which also get shaped by the expectation/ imagination of the future. So, we ourselves are mostly responsible for our role in creating our experience/ situation in which others cannot be blamed for problems/ issues in relationship we face.
2. We are inherently safe and our self-worth and purpose are intrinsic: Suffering allows us to find false assumptions, beliefs, attitudes and values that are out of accord with the truth of our self and spirit. Problems and pain are useful learning situations to discover and release the blocks to our spiritual growth and happiness.
3. Relationship reflects the process of transmission: Relationship need to embody openness and conscious sharing to realize their potential rather trying to get or grab, blame or block. When we feel some particular feeling, thought, attraction or repulsion with another person, it is an opportunity to bring something into conscious articulate awareness, and to communicate for mutual benefit.
4. Our needs are fulfilled from within: If we are experiencing a lack in some area of our lives or relationships, we need first to give to ourselves what we want from another. Then that state of fulfillment will be reflected in our outer relationship too. Self-respect or love we want, results from believing and trusting one’s own self and one’s own potential and not trying to get these things from another.
5. We generally seek to unite with the larger self and thereby to become whole: Sexual attraction/ union and falling in love is due to projection of our urge to inwardly unite and become whole. This is an attempt to outwardly integrate something that is really within us.
6. Conflicts in relationship is due to lack of understanding: Conflicts in relationship can be resolved by each person clarifying and sharing their own feelings, needs and expectations. Patterns of conflict in relationship without/ outside, reflect conflicts within oneself. One need not feel guilty about such conflict which ultimately be in the best interest of both.